What most women want, may be far from the real reality.
Most women don't want to be a man's teacher, leader or sculptor. They want to rest in the presence of a man who already knows himself.
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A woman who finds strength, stability, and emotional depth will offer a love that is both fierce and tender. She's going to pour into a man in ways that feel effortless because she knows she's pouring into a vessel that's already whole. And when two whole beings come together, not in need, but in deep and mutual reverence, love becomes something sacred.
- Abhikesh
There’s a few good books on this subject waiting to be written. The grand father (yes, sorry, father) of this gnosis is none other than Carl Gustave Jung.
In general terms, the great Jungian Professor of the archetypes of masculine identity is Dr Robert Moore. He is famous for his indispensable books, workshops and lectures on the archetypes of the masculine self. King, Warrior, Magician & Lover.
Moore’s insight into the state of masculine identity in the contemporary world (i resist saying “modern”) is that most men are not fully formed, responsible, and responsive MEN, but are in fact boy-men. The feature of the boy-man as most-all men is what we must contend with.
I assert that the optimistic search, and vigilance, to be on the lookout for these Uber-men of which this Abhikesh speaks, is. . . How to say? Perhaps overly optimistic.
It is probably more realistic to observe that what happiness lacks in length, it makes up for in height.
This is not the fault of men-folk per se. We are all, most of us, human beings in transition. We move from the old era of how things were and how they were done, into a new epoch. It would be lovely if the New Man would come spiralling through the vortex of transformational New Age metamorphosis. But such dramatic transformational scenarios are best left to Hollywood CGI (computer graphic imaging). And this as we are sadly and frequently reminded is the “real” world.
The real world is proven to be that oftentimes slightly boring place that requires a sense that “we are all just walking each other home.” Wounds, warts and whatever deficiencies there may be.
If you’re searching for the Uber Mensch… you may have to settle for an Uber Driver… and he’s probably going to be a work in progress.
Byron Bay Man torn between escaping Cyclone Alfred, and perfecting his bohemian windswept look?
Rinell K.
Yes, 'most' women seek those qualities in a man, that's true ..and TOTALLY unrealistic! I don't believe we should choose a partner because they tick all the boxes, but rather ....let's open the box and see what's in there. There may be gifts that we never anticipated.
Judy S.
I imagine that a bohemian with strength, stability and emotional strength would still be irresistable.
Dawn G.
Ahhh, yes, men pontificating on what women want, using other men pontificating on what women want as an example that we unrealistically want too much. hahaha. 
It’s not solely about what we want, the current practical feminist perspective more centres on what we are no longer prepared to do to ourselves in order to maintain traditional unequal roles, where women still do most of the menial tasks, mental load and emotional work of being in relationships, having families and running households, alongside having to earn money and pay the bills. We are also the glue that holds community together globally with our free care of young children, elders and extended family. Look at the main reasons for divorce. We are walking out of the programming, refusing to pour all of our energy into unworkable relationships, and looking out for ourselves a bit more. Rather than martyring ourselves on the burdened cross of the distorted ‘good wife and mother’ trope, we are collectively moving on to embodying a more wholesome feminine archetype that includes much more self care and joy for us women. Living life with our happiness not being solely dependent on an ‘other half’, a romantic but unavailable ideal. The collective transformation of women will ultimately be much more wholesome for our men folk too.
If the pontificators wish to reframe the collective feminine response to reality as unrealistic, unworkable, whatever, so be it, business as usual. Boring. 
Agape M.
These are two Byron Bay men pictured, torn to pieces. The two others, split in halves, were shared among the wise as a piece of loaf at the sunset meal. Before the sacred ritual of honorary scalping commenced—done in secrecy of the inner night, mostly as a dessert, a delischee—they were, as usual, fed to the golden fishes.
Simon B.
I knew it had to be something like that. . . thanks for clearing matters up